Wednesday, August 14, 2013

Sometimes I throw tantrums.........

I interrupt your normally scheduled posts (who am I kidding? I don't have any scheduled posts) to bring you this; Sometimes I throw tantrums. Like full on little kid tantrums. Not proud of it, but hey, at least I own it.

You know, I try to be a good example for my kids and not let them see my anger get the best of me but we all know that there are days when we just can't handle it. Most of the time I try to excuse myself and take a "mommy time out" but sometimes it gets the better of me and I erupt.

There has been known to be crying, maybe some foot stomping, definitely slammed doors and once or twice rolling around on the ground (okay, I kid). Seriously, though, I would love to be calm, cool and collected all the time and the perfect example, but I can't. That is not realistic. I am a yeller. I do not like that about myself and I am working on it, but I am not there yet and honestly, who knows if I ever will be. I hate that my reaction is to yell and I hate that I feel like that is the only way I am getting people to listen to me. I sometimes feel like the invisible women until I yell to get attention.

With that said, I can not expect,nor do I, for my kiddos to be perfect little specimens. They are four and three and boy can they have a tantrum or two. I blame part of that on myself and part of it as normal behavior. What's important here is to always make sure I apoloqize after a tantrum and explain that there are better ways to handle my feelings and to try harder. Plain and simple. If they can see me own it and make and effort then maybe, just maybe, they will too.

But....sometimes everybody just has to throw a tantrum!


  1. Absolutely!! I have done this, guilty as charged :) You are a great mum and are on the right track by communicating afterwards about why you acted the way you did and what you could have done better. Communication is the key I believe and also the acceptance of oneself for not being perfect and allowing ourselves to make mistakes. That is how we learn, and raising little human beings is bound to make anyone throw a tantrum from time to time, it's not all sunshine and roses!! Thanks for your honesty and always remember that you are doing the best you can xoxo

  2. Thank you for being so honest about it! :) All us other not so perfect moms appreciate it :)

    I am a yeller too and I am trying so hard to work on it. But seriously, I think there are times a four year old won't hear a word you say until you raise your voice a little.

    As long as our kids know we love them more than anything and they are happy and secure and healthy, then I think we are doing a pretty good job!

  3. i loved this, ashley! so honest. ohhh, sometimes, you just have to let it out, right?! i'm loud. when i'm mad, it's rare that you don't know. or should i say, that steve doesn't know. ;)
    you are a wonderful, super inspiring mother!
    i hope you're doing well. you and your family have been in my thoughts and prayers! i love all of your IG pics! sending love to you, my friend. <3<3<3

  4. I totally throw tantrums! My mom was a door slammer, and I'm totally the same way. It made me a little sad though the first time Avery yelled and slammed a door because I was like "Uh, that was totally me." But at the same time, I know I work on it, and I'm not perfect, so I try to let it get to me too much.