Thursday, November 3, 2011

Ending Friendships

Friendships have been on my mind a lot lately, in fact for a good long time.
I have come to realize that people I thought would always be in my life, sadly are not, and people who I didn't expect to be in my life are now firmly cemented into it.

Sometimes it is so hard to let go of friendships. I think even harder than letting go of relationships, sometimes. I have had a few friends over the last few years kinda fade out of my life and it has left me wondering what I have done wrong and what I could have done differently.
I realize that people change over time and the things that once bonded you together may not remain anymore. But still, it hurts. I didn't have any "falling outs", per say, but more a gradual loss of friendship.
Do you have that friend where you feel like you try, try and try but it is never reciprocated and eventually you just give up trying?
For awhile, I acted like I didn't care but then I just wondered why? It is hard not to get closure on these things.

Lately, though, I have come to accept the fact that God places certain people in our lives at certain times for specific reasons. I find comfort in that and I know that although, we may not be friends now, that they will always hold a special place in my heart for all the "old times" we shared.

I have been focusing more on the people I do have in my life now and not dwelling on those that I don't anymore. I have a lot of amazing friends that I am so thankful for.  I feel like, as you get older you have less and less friends and it is harder "to put yourself out there", so to speak, and make new friends.  But, I cherish each and every one that I do have.

Like the saying goes "Quality over quantity". I would rather have a few great friends than a lot of friends who aren't really "there" for me when I need them.


  1. I totally agree!! Life is made up in chapters. We grow and change and move on. Some people come into our lives for a reason, for a time, and then leave. It would be nice to have closure though, but then again, how do you close a friendship? Quality over quantity... :)

  2. totally been on my heart lately! just recently "lost" my "best" friend. it was a lose/lose for me and I am much happier, but still sad it had to be this way

  3. Oh wow yes! I completely agree with everything you said and quality and way better than quantity!

  4. I have been struggling with this lately too. Quality is better than quantity but its still hard.

  5. i couldn't agree more, with people being placed in our life for a reason. friendship is something in my top priorities. friends to me, are family. and i feel like some people's view of what a friend is, is just "oh, we can hang out, have fun, and that's it" me, that's not a true friend. a friend is someone you can confide in, bare your soul to, and no matter what, they never judge you and only listen and sometimes guide you...stand beside you...and of course, have fun is needed!
    i agree...quality over quantity...
    one amazing friend is worth millions <3
    wishing you a wonderful weekend, ashley!

  6. Such a great post Ashley! I've been thinking about lost friendships lately's hard when there's no closure, but at the same time it's hard to stay friends when you're going in opposite directions in life! Thankful for new friends!!

  7. I've learned that as we get older, our friendships take different forms. I've accepted the fact that I have a friend for every purpose. Our relationships aren't the same as they were when we were younger, but they're "friendships" nonetheless because of all the memories and bonds. I have a friend for shopping; a friend to discuss personal relationship stuff with; and a friend for spiritual things!

  8. I know how you feel and totally relate. So cherish the good times, let em go and move on. This year I one of my so called best friends ended our friendship for no real reason. i was upset, but then realized she was never a real friend if it was that easy to walk away.